First, a disclaimer: I understand this is a "woman's" book, that is, written by a leader in women's ministry for other women. If the book were about organizing your home, I wouldn't necessarily care to read it. Also, I get the idea that in the church, women aren't allowed to exercise authority over men -- the author is obviously trying to steer clear of that. But I believe it is important for men to read books such as this because the subject matter is really about a couples' issue. It takes two to make a relationship work. So as a husband I say, read this book and consider what is being taught, as a brother in the Lord who has equal regard for his sister in the Lord would.Author Sheila Wray Gregoire teaches women that sex is a sacred act that is meant to knit a husband and wife together emotionally, spiritually, as well as physically, and that "good girls" are those who, regardless of their sexual history, desire to follow God's design for their sex lives going forward. She describes how men and women view sex differently, but shows how they compliment each other by design. For young couples, she describes the basic mechanics of sex, reviews birth control methods, and provides guidance on how to best prepare for the wedding night, while setting realistic expectations for first sexual experiences. She instructs wives how to reach orgasm and suggests ways to nurture an increasing desire to make love with their husbands. She addresses mild sexual problems ranging from a partner not having their head in the game, all the way to serious porn addictions that destroy marriages. She teaches how to be both Holy and desirous of sex, and how to savor sexual relations like a fine meal. She reviews particular sexual practices that may be helpful or harmful, reminds readers of the importance of friendship with your spouse, and shares her conviction that both frequency of, and enthusiasm for sex are vitally important for marriage. In conclusion, she draws conclusions about what is good or bad about contemporary sexual behavior from statistics garnered from a series of surveys she took among Christian women who attended her conferences and other speaking events.I liked the relevant Bible references that are sprinkled throughout, which emphasize the relational and spiritually uniting aspects of sex between husband and wife. Early in the book, I loved the explanation of how sex is the doorway to intimacy for a man, while intimacy is the doorway to sex for a woman. Sheila emphasizes that sex is not a timed event with a goal, so much as a journey of discovery between two people who become intimate through prayer, looking at one other with loving eyes, sharing their nakedness, and by exploring each others bodies. I liked how she redefines premature ejaculation as a couples' problem, and how she provides realistic solutions to this and the wife's orgasm challenges. The author's denouncement of porn not only states the usual argument that lust displeases God and offends the woman, but also that it renders the husband impotent and unable to keep his marital duty. Her review of sexual aids and techniques takes the approach that sex ought to be as natural as possible. I appreciate her suggestion for wives to use lingerie or other attractive clothing to entice and seduce their husbands. Given that her survey showed that a majority of husbands are at least somewhat unhappy with the lack of sex with their wives, I also agree with her admonition to prioritize the husband's needs over the children, her suggestion that couples negotiate so-called sex contracts, and her admonition to "say yes to sex unless there's a good reason to say no". I also loved her story about her drowning an unhelpful sex book in the bathtub. It gives this book a personal touch and shows the author's motivation for writing a better book.I do have some disagreements with Gregoire here and there. I thought the book's first chapter went off on a rabbit trail -- she expresses her disappointment in "Bad Girls" who flaunt their sexuality, and states that private, conservative women have as much sexual satisfaction as England's Queen Victoria (it seems odd to be describing the sex life of someone who passed away over a hundred years ago). Early in the book, she creatively interprets survey results to suggest that wives are more satisfied by sexual intimacy than by orgasms, though such a question was never put to women directly, and her survey statistics (presented at the end of the book) clearly show that women who orgasm more rate their sexual satisfaction higher than those who don't. On the topic of masturbation, her advice is confusing at best, as she encourages couples (who presumably practiced this as singles) to use it as a learning tool in the bedroom, but then tells women that "being in touch with our bodies before marriage turns our future husbands into sex toys". Later on, she promotes phone sex and "giggles" to cope with the stress of business trips. What? Really? While she supports couples watching engrossing romance movies that are overtly sexual, she's doesn't distinguish this from the kind of unhealthy "fantasy" that she associates with sin. Finally, I think her prescription for couples to have sex three times per week isn't consistent with her observations in chapter 5 that a woman's desire to have sex two times weekly is "perfectly normal". Again, the difference isn't explained, and furthermore, she makes no adjustments for a couple's age.I just read and reviewed the popular book "Sheet Music" by Kevin Leman, which covers essentially the same ground. Leman has the advantage of possessing extensive clinical experience to inform his opinions, and it is the best selling book on this topic. However, I found this book refreshing because it is more understanding of how women think of sex, and I think that's key because both books really focus on encouraging distracted wives to show sexual interest in their husbands. I really appreciated how Sheila Wray Gregoire took a survey to understand her audience, and how she wrote the book with an overall, inclusive tone to accept women who are earnestly following Christ but who've had premarital sexual experience as part of those who are moving forward in life as a "Good Girl". Leman doesn't do this. While Gregoire clearly argues for entering into marriage as a virgin, she also knows that only about half of Christians do, so I find her "big tent" approach refreshing. While I was annoyed with the first chapter and some of the details I've described, I think she's reasonably honest about her own faults and finds her writing groove early on. I wanted to give this book five stars but I just couldn't based on some of my concerns. However, I think most of the material is excellent, I liked the Biblical grounding for most of it, and I think it will definitely help couples improve their sex lives. I recommend it.