I bought this for wife and I. Her impressions from the photo were so skeptical. For example she claimed this would give her "information overload" during play time. She basically indulged me by allowing it's purchase and use.After the first time, she was amazed and impressed. She asks for it and she is a monster when the time comes. Note she won't open her eyes or look at it being used ("too weird") but she admits her impression was wrong.Wearing it takes getting used to, and some technique. Wear it LOW on the chin, so your mouth is uncovered. If you wear it correctly, when you drive it in, the base of this will push on your chin - perfect. The dong is not super-solid, and will bend or deflect if you do anything other than straight in-and-out. It feels a little flimsy so if you bend it a bunch of times, who knows if it will break right? The idea behind this is you can swirl and flick your tongue all around the little man in the boat. You can just go in and out, and time a few licks at the end of the down stroke. When she wants you to move faster, you might only get one lick in, partial flick, or maybe just gently mash your mouth on that beautiful flower (tell her how awesome she is; hot AF).You can combine this with vibrators... it'll hold a buzzing ring, or she can fit in the Hitachi Magic want if you don't mind occasionally bumping into that.Don't jump straight into using this either. Take a few minutes to warm things up hands and toy-free, and when you start be sure there is plenty of lube.